Have you ever struggled with being motivated? Or didn’t get yourself to follow through on something you committed to?
Well, today I’ll be sharing with you an incredible technique you can use to FIRE you up by harnessing the power of PAIN and PLEASURE.
I came across this technique in Tony Robbins’, “Awaken the Giant Within,” where he states “Everything You and I do, we do either out of our need to avoid pain and our desire to gain pleasure.”
Let’s use procrastination as an example. You know you should be doing something–whether it be finishing up a project, having that serious conversation, etc.–but instead, you’re binge watching Youtube videos. Why? Because it’s more painful to take action now than it is to simply put it off.
I did this all the time when I was in school. How many of you have heard someone say “I work better under pressure?”
Maybe you’ve said it yourself?
It’s 1 AM and you have a paper due, and all of a sudden, you realize not taking action and staying up longer or getting an F is more painful than putting it off anymore. WHABAM! Along comes the motivation to just get it done.
See? By recognizing what is painful, you can generate the energy and pressure needed to remove it from your life and establish that sense of pleasure once again.
Tony Robbins says “The secret to success is learning how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. If you do that, you’re in control of your life. If you don’t, life controls you.”I’m going to walk you through an exercise you can use to harness the power of pain and pleasure with an example I used TODAY when going through it myself.
5 STEPS TO HARNESSING THE POWER OF PAIN AND PLEASURE
STEP 1: Ask yourself, “What have you been putting off? (working out, cleaning your room, etc.) and answer the following questions to motivate you in taking action. My example was establishing a morning routine since I’m on day 3 of my 30 day morning ritual challenge.
STEP 2: Ask yourself, “Why haven’t I taken action? What pain have I associated to taking this action?”
For me, I got pain from having to wake up on time to make sure I could follow through on my morning routine. This meant I also had to go to sleep on time, which I struggled with because of bad time management. If I happened to go to be late, I’d be extra tired in the morning, making the morning routine even more of a burden. For you, it could be giving up sweets or giving up free time. Write your answer down.
STEP 3: Ask yourself, “What pleasure have I had in giving in to this negative habit?”
For me, I got pleasure out of sleeping in, not having to wake up until I really had to. I got pleasure out of not having to worry so much about how late I stayed up. What pleasure do you get out of in indulging in your negative habits? Write this down as well.
STEP 4: Ask yourself, “What will it cost if I don’t change now?”
Here’s where you need to get emotional. What’s it going to cost you over the next year, 3 years, 5 years, and more? Emotionally, physically, mentally? In terms of self-esteem, relationships? Financially? For establishing a morning routine, I won’t be able to prime myself to be the person and leader I want to be. Every day I need to be aligned with my purpose and I won’t be setting myself up to do that if I can’t consistently follow through in my morning routine. I won’t be able to program my subconscious mind to help me manifest my dreams and vision for life. I’ll be derailed time and time again. What will your negative habit cost you if you don’t change now? Write your answer down.
STEP 5: Finally, ask yourself, “What are all the pleasures I’ll receive by taking action?”
This needs to be exciting for you. If I establish a morning routine, I’ll be starting every single day focused on my mission. I’ll be programming my mind to achieve all my desires and attract the resources to do so. My self-image will begin to take shape of the leader and influencer I aim to be, to be the best version of myself and inspire others to do the same. What awesome things will come into your life by taking action? How will you feel? Write. This. Down.
So there you folks have it. 5 steps to harnessing the power of pain and pleasure. Make the pain of not taking action worse than actually taking action. It’s important to remember that pain and pleasure drive the actions you take in life.You can either control them, or they control you.
Which will it be?
Until next time Rebels,
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